Review:Silicone Flexi-Power Rod

•Friday, August 21, 2009 • 11 Comments

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Silicone Flexi-Power Rod by California Exotic Novelties

The Silicone Flexi-Power Rod was the first vibrating toy I owned. To cut to the chase, I like this toy and use it often. However, I use it as a warm-up/foreplay toy. If you are looking for the toy guaranteed to give you the biggest orgasm while it is working you ass I can’t recommend this toy for that, however, if you’re looking for a good toy to warm-up with or simply want to know more about this toy read ahead.

The Silicone Flexi-Power Rod in it orginal packaging

The Silicone Flexi-Power Rod in its original packaging

The Power Rod is a 7 function vibrating anal probe with an insertable length of 8 inches. Taking a good look at the toy starting at the base, the base is made out of plastic and isn’t water proof so take care not to get it wet. It has two buttons one for cycling through the seven functions and one to turn off the toy. Operation is thus simple enough; however, the two buttons are so close to one another it is very easy to hit the wrong button in the heat of the moment. A better design choice would have been to move one of the buttons to the side of the toy and an even better choice would be two arrow keys to cycle back and forth through the settings and a third center stop key. Flipping the toy over for a moment, the toy uses three AA batteries and I found the battery case easy to open and close with my thumb. It is recommend practice to remove the batteries from a toy when not in use to help extend the life of both the batteries and the toy. An easy to open battery case assures that you won’t be ruining the mood and/or your afterglow while you’re fumbling to get the batteries in/out. The seven functions are as follows:

  1. Vibration #1 (Low)
  2. Vibration #2 (Medium)
  3. Vibration #3 (High)
  4. Pulse, Pulse, Vibration
  5. Rapid Pulsation
  6. Pulsation
  7. Escalation

The vibrations are powerful, but not earth shattering. The toy makes enough noise that you’ll be able to hear it under the sheets but not through a locked door. I find all the setting to be pleasurable however; my personal favorites are: #6. Pulsation, #4. Pulse, Pulse, Vibration, and #7. Escalation. None are intense enough to drive me to orgasm on their own. However, I am not disappointed by this, I personally like this as it allows me to use this for the masturbatory equivalent of foreplay. One use of this is that I find the vibrations help relax my anal muscles; I thus bring it out to warm up for bigger/better toys. Another use I have for this toy reflects a little quirk of mine. While I like porn; and I like masturbating after I watch porn I have never liked getting off during porn much. It always felt premature ejaculation-ish to come while the action is still happening on screen. However, just lying there doing nothing while people are fucking on screen isn’t the funniest thing either. This represents the perfect solution as I can get very pleasurable stimulation while still allowing me to save my orgasm for when I’m good and ready.

Looking at the shaft, it is composed of an oblong tip flowed by three rounder beads leading down to the base. There is a slight seam running down the length of the shaft on both sides. Although the seam was noticeable to my fingers, I did not feel the seam while it was inside me, others might so it should be noted. The beading makes this an excellent anal vibrator since it ensures the toy stays in and does not fall out or get pushed out via intense muscle contractions. However, I found the toy awkward to use for pure trusting so if you are looking for a thrusting tool I’d look elsewhere. The main attraction of this shaft is that it is flexible. It’ll always bounce back to its original shape so you have to hold it in place once you find a good position. This allows for some fun applications. Firstly, you can use this externally to stimulate nipples, balls, cock, perineum etc. the flexibility allows you to wrap this bad boy around your junk in interesting ways. My favorite application of this is just putting in the tip of the toy and bending it back to get perineum /ball stimulation while it vibrates inside of me. This flexibility also makes this a good choice for a beginner; you don’t want to be sticking anything to hard up there while you’re still learning. The insertable length of 8’ should be enough for anyone. I don’t usually stick it in all the way. The vibrations as best I can tell come from a bullet vibe in the tip not from the base of the toy, thus the vibrations don’t feel as pleasurable when I go all the way in. However, since this is the longest toy in my collection as of now there is a psychological thrill from inserting it all the way in. The beads also feel good being removed anal beads style after full insertion.

The material the shaft is made of is phthalate free TPR silicone, a composite silicone. The box calls it “hygienically superior silicone” which is misleading. These composite are only required to have 10% silicone to call themselves silicone. This imparts to them many of the benefits of silicone but not all. To that end, the toy definitely feels much like rubber and the box says it should always be used with a rubber compatible lubricant. Nowhere on the box does it clearly state that this toy is composite silicone, just the hygienically superior silicone line, considering the difference between pure silicone and composite silicone this type of practice among toy makers is deceptive and needs to stop. It is tempting, and not unjustified, to give this toy an “avoid it” recommendation on principle alone. While you should never use silicone based lubes on a silicone toy this is even truer for a composite toy so use a good water based lubricant if you pick this toy up. Putting a condom on this toy is not a bad idea either, being a composite you should treat this toy more like rubber than a 100% silicone toy. Definitely go the condom route (or buy more than one) if you plan to share this toy between partners or your own orifices. TPR silicone is not like pure silicone, which is easily sterilized between uses.

Lastly, it should be noted that this toy is inexpensive you can find it for around 25 bucks. This toy isn’t perfect, the biggest drawback being that it is TPR silicone. However, considering the toys versatility and low price, if the drawbacks listed above do not brother you this toy comes recommend. It loses points for being TPR silicone, if it wasn’t for that it would be a must have. The versatility and low price also makes this a good choice for beginner looking for an inexpensive vibrating toy to experiment with.


Bet Your Ass, Strip and Erotic Poker

•Wednesday, August 19, 2009 • Leave a Comment

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It may seem strange that while I love poker, and I love-watching people take their clothes off, strip poker has never interested me. That changed when I was looking to purchase some sex toys and saw an item that gave me a new way to look at one of my favorite hobbies. First, the reason strip poker never appealed to me is my only conceptualization of how poker could be used sexually was from TV and movies, and the game I saw there, while perhaps good orgy lubricant, could not work as poker. The game I was seeing, using clothing as the currency, was not any real form of poker and just an excuse to get naked. Yes, I’m aware that is in fact the point however as a poker player it still irked me. While there might have been plenty of nudity and maybe even some poke-her (sorry, it had to be said) in these games there was no actually poker.

Before we continue, we should establish some poker terms I’ll be using:

Tournament style: Players play until eliminated, X number of places win a prize/pay-out

Ring style: Standard walk up to the table and play for chips; you can usually get up and cash-out whenever you want.

Freeze-out: Ring style game, players play until one person has all the chips, only one-person wins (no leaving the table and cashing-out,)

Buy-in: The amount of money you need to put in to play in a game/tournament

Re-buy: Buying more chips mid-game in order to keep playing

Blinds and antes: Forced bets that players must post. In community pot games, this usually takes the form of a small blind (i.e. 1 bet) and a big blind (i.e. 2 bets).

Bankroll: The amount of capital you have to play

On-tilt: Player going emotional and playing irrationally

Split pot: The best high hand and the best low hand split the pot; the idea is to have a hand that can work both ways so you can take the whole pot. My personal favorite game Omaha hi/lo is such a game.

Limit, no limit and pot limit: Limit, betting structure is fixed; No limit, you can bet as much as you want at any time you can go all-in at any time; Pot limit, betting is caped at the current size of the pot.

Nuts: The best possible hand

Now, let us review why the strip poker you see on TV, using clothes as a form of currency, could not work, as poker:

1) How do you ante up, exactly? (More on this below)

2) How do you adjust for the varying number of clothing items between players? What if one person has on only a dress on and the others are wearing multiple layers of clothing. For that matter what counts as clothing? Does a scarf count? A hat? Gloves? Jewelry? Even if you agree to have the same number of clothing on everyone/ make it strip down to a certain level regardless of the number of clothing, there are still problems.

3) If we are using clothing as the currency, there would seem to be too few bets available to allow the influence of good play to manifest itself. With so few bets, the game becomes a crapshoot. For that matter because it is a crapshoot normal considerations like bluffing and reading tells wouldn’t be useful. Also, with so few bets how do you create a meaningful difference between a limit, pot limit and no limit game.  (More on this below)

Note: After thinking of the below time based game I did figure out how to make this work. Have the striping only start only when you on a short stake (X chips left), betting before that no striping. This would also solve many, but not all, of the other problems I have with the mechanics of strip poker. I still like my variant better and again these are the type of rules that would be needed to make the game work as poker, but no one ever seems to have in the media portrayal of it.

4) Notice how no one ever puts their clothing back on during a game of strip poker in the movies. If we are treating it like the game’s currency then someone should really be putting something back on when someone wins a pot.

5) There are many forms of poker that seem incompatible with this form. Which only seems to work for ring style freeze-outs without re-buys. For example, how do you do a split-pot style game like Omaha hi/lo in this setting? (Get out the scissors?) How do you do rebuys? Me and Wikipedia are at odds on this issue

6) The “prize” structure does not make sense, you start fully dressed so you start in the winning position and can only go downhill from there. What do you gain in terms of “currency” by winning a hand? Yes, the other person gets naked but you get that when anyone loses a hand how to you gain a legitimate and exclusive chip lead in this format?

7) How can you build a bankroll in this format?

So on and so fourth…


A retro pic of cloths as currency strip poker

The one serious conversation I remember having on this only confirmed these suspicions. When I asked I friend who had taken part in such a game about the mechanics of it he responded, “Well you don’t really blind or ante up”. Problem is blinds and antes are an integral part of the game, they are what drive the game. Want an easy way to “win” a strip poker game, just fold every hand, and wait for everyone else to play each other into nekkidity, without blinds or an ante there is no downside to folding every single hand, that isn’t the nuts.

My suspicions that there was no way to make a strip poker game work as poker confirmed I left it at that. There was still a certain lure to the concept, however. Who wouldn’t like to combine two good things together? Not to mentioned I was quite curious how the circumstances would affect people’s tells and strategy, especially if the context is eroticized. It could bring a completely new meaning to the phrase “table image”. Also, it might be entertaining see someone go on full tilt while in their birthday suit. Try to imagine a full on Phil Hellmuth “the poker brat” melt down (start watching around 2:15 to see what I mean) with the added factor of nudity. Now there is a way of combining poker and sex that would work as poker, playing tournament style poker for an erotic prize, the swinger playing for his wife scenario. However, that is playing for an erotic prize, not the eroticization of the game itself, which would seem to me to be the point of strip poker.

Then I happened across this erotic game, a grin came over my face and my opinion changed. The differences is that unlike using articles of clothing this game instead uses a time interval for certain sex acts. Since time is equal to money as the saying goes, this allows the game to function both as poker and as a way to get your freak on. This game also doesn’t fall prey to complainant number three above. You want to play a limited game with at least enough bets to cover 20 times the big blind, for example in a 1bet/2bet structure you would want at least 40 bets per player. With 30 chips of three denominations that give us 60 bets (1×10 + 2×10 + 3×10) a reasonable number. To compare this game only gives you 6 bets per player too few bets for the game to be legitimate. However, the real fun for me would begin when we move beyond heads-up play (1-on-1 poker, the above “poker for lovers” games would be by default heads-up games) and move into the realm of full games involving multiple people all willing to get naked and fuck.

Now, let me whip out my poker set and demonstrate the newfound possibilities. *runs hand over 10.5 g clay composites in a disturbingly sexual manner* (It has been a while since I played a game, of any of the two connotations) Noting that while many of my suggestion do alter the flow of the game, the game isn’t broken and furthermore most of them add a strategic element along with the sexual. Also noting that these aren’t hard rules just ideas and suggestions you can adjust them to fit your game/lifestyle/kink accordingly.

Anybody up for a game?

Anybody up for a game?

My clay composite poker set has, as you can see above: 130 red chips; 100 blue chips; 100 green; and a 100 black chips (I also have some cheap-o sets lying around if I need more chips) let’s call these my “normal chips”. Then there are also 25 each of yellow, orange, pink and purple chips I’ll call these “kink chips” and come back to them later.

Using the above game as my inspiration here is my vision on how the game would go: each of the “normal chips” would represent a category of sex acts for example:

red= foreplay, blue=oral, green= vaginal, black=anal.

Players make up a list of sex acts from each category they would be willing to perform on the winner. Using this there a few ways to proceed from here.

The first way would be to have, multiple poker nights, and “color code” them. This would add a little twist to the game, as normally, all thing being equal, one shouldn’t be any more motivated one night versus another; money is money. However, since the prize each night is different it could be interesting to see how different a player plays when he is playing for anal chips (his favorite) versus foreplay (least favorite).

The second would be to have an exchange rate going. You can have the chips represent the normal denominations used for your standard game when you’re actually playing. However, the chips could still have different sexual values. You could set things up so trading chips up to the next domination will net you less time but with a more “valuable” sex act. You can also add that you can only trade down if you need to break a denomination to cover a bet giving the choice even more weight.

Now like I said above you couldn’t really have a bankroll when playing strip poker but this variant allows for not just that but for the eroticization of it. How does it feel knowing the Billy has all those anal chips in his bankroll he could cash-out at any moment? For that matter, the concept of the chips having different sexual values adds a completely new dimension to bankroll management. For one if your fantasy requires things from more than one category you have to plain out how to get and keep the necessary amount of chips. This also alters strategy in that if one person has all the anal chips you want you’ll obviously be gunning for them more. You could play on this by having all chip colors be of equal denomination in terms of game mechanics, but again having different sexual value, and start each player with only one color of chips.

That does leave the question of how to get more chip/do in game rebuys. There are several ways to do this let us start with in-game rebuys. One solution is to have another list of acts that you’re willing to do in order to rebuy. Something from the humiliation and submission category perhaps? Having to fetch the table fresh drinks using one of these maybe? There are many possibilities. To me re-buying during play seems like the perfect moment to integrate striping in to the game assuming you all start the game fully clothed. Example: Have a two-rebuy limit, first rebuy means going topless, second rebuy going bottomless. Also if you’re not against having an element of sex for money at work you could have someone act as the house, like the host for you poker/sex party, and just rebuy using cash. Speaking of that if you do have a house although not normal for a home game, this formant does allow you to have a rake (the piece of the pot the house takes for itself, in this case it would be a piece of ass ;)). Also, if you have a dedicated dealer (perhaps being the dealer for x hands, perhaps while naked, could be one of the ways to rebuy? Are we seeing the possibilities yet?) this format will allow you to be able to toke (tip) them.

There is also, the issue of what to do with chips that represent different sexual acts during a split pot game that is also easily to resolve for me. Again, the method does alter the game dynamics a bit but it does so while adding a new strategic element. Make it so with splitting the pot all chips of a certain color will go first to whoever wins a certain side of the pot, you can decide which chips and which side. This again alters the flow in a strategic manner, as players would be more aggressively chasing one side of the pot depending on what acts they want.

There is one final way I can think of to make poker erotic, remember those “kink” chips. I was mentioning. Since there is a limited number of these you can make these in to kink categories like this: Yellow= water-sports; orange= bondage; pink= impact play; purple=electro-play

JKQ, Red, Green, Blue, Black and Pink or Foreplay, Vaginal, Oral, Anal Impact Play and MMF?

JKQ, Red, Green, Blue, Black and Pink or Foreplay, Vaginal, Oral, Anal, Impact Play and MMF?

The simplest is giving each play a number of these kink chips to start along with their normal chips. They would in terms of poker accounting be equal to normal chips but of course, their different sexual value is what would make them interesting to throw in a game. Have the nuts and want to sweeten the pot so people will call? Throw in a rope bondage chip. Want to make your bluff look bigger? Put in all your spanking chips. Another way to use these is a bounty on the head of each player, whenever a player is knocked out the player that eliminated them gets their kink chips. You can also have a bounty only be triggered in certain circumstances (i.e. if a player wins a hand played to the river where he was  x% the underdog on the flop that triggers a bounty.) This bounty system can also be used to erotic effect in tournament style games in addition to the erotic prize you also get a kink chips for everyone you knock out. There are many other poker variants that could be adapted in this manner for example “kill games” could be done using kinky chips as the required currency for the kill blind, another example would be using them as required currency for straddles or sleepers.

The possibilities are only limited by your imagination. So there you have it folks I’ve been converted poker can indeed be made into an erotic exercise and still work as poker. Until next time remember, never bluff a sucker, and may all your pots (and orgasms) be monsters.

On Death, Fear and Sex Blogging

•Monday, August 17, 2009 • Leave a Comment

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As I have already mentioned I’m the primary caregiver for my elderly father and as is the main point of this blog I also happen to be going through a sexual awakening. As you might have guessed that second event could not have occurred at a worse time. This will be the first of what is likely to be several posts detailing the challenges of balancing the two.

Despite all the challenges in my life, I have still managed to have many sexual revelations and I treasure every one of them. However, there is one thing I’m deathly afraid of regarding my sexual exploration. Let us be brutally honest my father is not long for this Earth. Clearly, the inevitable period of grief and mourning that will follow is not going to be a very sexual point in my life. What frightens me is a part of me is afraid that when that happens it will cause me to regress, to forget everything I’ve learned since my sexual exploration started. At its worse I fear that I somehow in a moment of grief and desperation I will end up returning to the same twisted belief structure (Roman Catholicism) that made me so repressed in the first place, a belief structure so twisted the remnant influence of it continued to repress my sexuality even after I had intellectually rejected it.

Although, I am still new at it I like blogging and plan to continue doing it. Thinking about this fear however made me want to continue blogging even more. I realized that by putting my sexual accounts, thoughts, explorations, and intentions out here for the world to see I’ve created a method for holding my post-mourning self accountable to my pre-mourning self. This blog might not just be the chronicle of my journey down the road of sexual exploration, one day it might become the beacon that helps keep me on it.

To that end let me give my post-mourning self something to be accountable for. Most of the things here are things that would require me to be in a sexual mood to be able to post them. However, I’m planning a series of posts I call the Sex Sui Generis the silly, illogical rules society places on sexuality (especially those imposed by the extreme Christian right, my former Roman Catholic faith for example). Since this is intellectual recounts and analysis, I could get back to doing those as easily as I could any other intellectual activity. I hope that by preparing myself for the inevitable like this I can keep myself on track in life sexually and otherwise.

In a neat coincidence, Disturbed’s The Curse popped up on the playlist as I was typing this. I think some of the lyrics fit what is going through my mind right now about this and life in general:

I’ve held on too long just to let it go now.
Will my inner strength get me through it somehow?
Defying the curse that has taken hold.
Never surrender, I’ll never be overcome.

Happy Birthday, Alexa

•Sunday, August 16, 2009 • Leave a Comment

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Tomorrow is Alex of birthday. Her blog has given me too many sexual epiphanies to describe in one post (there is a reason I have category tag just for her). However, to keep it short my sexual awakening and thus this blog wouldn’t have occurred without her blog as inspiration. I’ve temporally changed my tag line to reflect this influence:

You read one blog written by a sew worker and before you know it, your reading the Myth of Monogamy, opening up a fetlife account and shoving all manner of sex toys up your ass then reviewing them. Happy Birthday Alexa Di Carlo!

Cut yourself a piece of the cake and enjoy your time in Vegas. Keep being you. Cannot wait to see how much further your blog will be able to corrupt me 😉


Why My Sexual Exploration Is Lacking In Actual Sex

•Friday, August 14, 2009 • 2 Comments

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I already mentioned this in my frustration fueled-post on Wednesday, but now I’m going to explain myself coolly and calmly. I am the primary caregiver to my elderly, and as of late June blind father, who is dying of lung cancer (there is a reason militant anti-tobacco is on that little about me blurb). To make matters worse this means I’m stuck in my parents’ house with my mother and my eldest brother neither of whom I have a good relationship with.

In my first post, I said the following:

The same circumstances that lead me to these revelations have also left me with little chance of exploring my sexuality with another human being.

Add to my care-giving duties, having to work on my masters degree and I think you can understand why this is the case. Yet all things considered I’m truly amazed by the amount of exploration I have managed to have, being limited to me, my hands, an internet connection and a growing mountain of sex toys.

I wasn’t originally planning on posting about this however I quickly realized it would be unnatural to constantly have to tip-toe around the circumstances that surround my life. Moreover, this blog beautifully shows how you can have a “sex blog” (I’m calling myself a sex blogger now?) that isn’t entirely about sex. If there was room on the internets for a blog that talked both about sex and motherhood, why could not there be a place for a blog that talked about the challenges of sexual exploration when you’re a caregiver. I was originally planning on writing one big post explain everything at once include how”How on Earth can I be thinking so much about sex at a time like this” and the associated challenges involved with having your sexual awakening come at such an inopportune time. However, I realized that would be impractical as it would be a very long post. So, I decided to just write a short post explaining the situation I find myself, in calm, rational manner. As the link I already shared shows it turned out I would be sharing it in a frustrated, emotional manner. O well.

I will answer one question. How on Earth can I be even thinking so much about sex at a time like this?

Would you ask an artist why he is using his experiences to inspire him to paint? Would you ask a writer why they turn to writing to cope? Living like a monk, which I will admit was my knee jerk reaction, would be a massive mistake. Exploring my sexuality is one of the few things keeping me sane.

So there you have it namelesschaos: liberal, anal aficionado, sex toy junkie, caregiver

Contest: Babeland 500-dollar gift card

•Thursday, August 13, 2009 • 1 Comment

Babeland is having a contest offering a 500-dollar gift card for just listing your sex toy wish list. As a male anal sex toy junkie how could I refuse.

Hitachi Magic Wand + Gee Whiz Combo: Vibration can feel really good on a man’s cock and perineum and the attachment can be used for some intense internal anal vibration. 84.45

Jaguar Harness + Purple Leo Combo: I seriously want to be fucked strap-on style and why not show some intuitive and have the kit ready to go for my future lover. 121.95

Romp: Wood that gives me wood! 110.00

Prostate Pleasure Kit: Can’t call myself a true anal aficionado if I don’t get me at Aneros prostates massager at some point now can I. 69.00

Alumina Motion: Cold hard metal in motion, yummy. 89.00

Eros Bodyglide: Have to have something to help get these things inside me don’t I? $24.00

That is a total of 498.40

Giveaway: Free $100 gift card from Eden fantasys

•Wednesday, August 12, 2009 • 1 Comment

Like any good sex toy junkie I sign up for contests and giveaways  in hopes of being to feed my habit with out using my own money. Edan cafe has one such contest:

On Monday, Aug 17th, I’ll give one lucky person a $100 gift card for Eden Fantasys. Yes. $100 you get to spend however you want.